to be defined

fitting in is a myth

fitting into your jeans

your top

your sweater

check, check, check


fitting into the role people think you should be

that you think you should be

that you want to be

that you once were?

cross, cross, cross


they will not be checked

you are who you are

you are not who you were

you are not someone else's picture of who you are

you are not a molded identity

you do not need to be


you are allowed your freedom to just be

and to be seen as just that

of past and present

of maybes of changes


it is comfortable for others to be able to check you off the list

"i know her, i understand her. she looks like this, she does that"


it is not your job to make people comfortable

you are allowed to be a multitude of mixes

you do not need to be defined

you are allowed to explore interests

you do not need to be defined

you are allowed to try

you are allowed to explore

you are allowed to just be you

express yourself, as you are, not as they want you to be

live for yourself, not for the boxes to be checked

© 2020 Rose Zilber